Children Can Set New Year’s Resolutions Too
A new year can mean new resolutions for both children and adults alike. But whether you’re young or old, it can be tough to keep those good habits throughout the year. There’s why a little careful planning and ongoing follow-up can go a long way.
“Kids are not too young to also participate in the fun of setting New Years resolutions,” says Dr. April Nesin, pediatric clinical psychologist at St. Louis Children’s Hospital. “In fact, parents and children may have more success if they make New Years resolutions as a family, with every family member having a specific part, and all are accountable.”
When planning, it is important to set resolutions or goals that are clear, achievable and measurable. Resolutions can be made at any age, but it may be most effective to start with school-aged children. “Kids should have a good understanding of what they’re shooting for,” say Dr. Nesin. “Parents should ask kids, ‘What’s something you want to be better or different this year?’ and help them map out how to get there.”
According to Dr. Nesin, after the resolution is made, parents should revisit the conversation. A family meeting or discussion each month can help parents and children talk about any challenges they may have. If things are going well, parents can also find easy ways to reward kids for sticking with resolutions along the way. Verbal praise goes far in helping children keep on track.
If parents are also setting individual resolutions, they can share their own goals and challenges with their children. “Kids tend to be better at keeping resolutions than adults, probably because they set more realistic goals up front,” says Dr. Nesin. “But parents who actively help their kids set and achieve resolutions will likely do better on their own resolutions too.”
Some other helpful reminders for parents and children setting New Years Resolutions (and sticking to them):
- Set goals that are clear, achievable and measurable for the child and his/her abilities
- Consider setting goals as a family, with every person doing his/her own part
- Avoid setting too many goals (focus on 1-2 goals maximum)
- Make gradual changes – not drastic ones
- Follow up periodically to see how children are doing with their goals; Trouble-shoot challenges together
- Reward children for success along the way (verbal praise goes a long way)
- Remember, parents are mentors for setting resolutions. Model the type of behavior you want as a family and everyone will be more successful.